I’m in a dead-end job. My boss doesn’t care. He doesn’t appreciate how hard I work. The customers don’t understand. They are always trying to getting something for nothing. They don’t listen. My co-workers are useless. Those Millennials are lazy and entitled. You can’t get good help these days. I don’t have enough time. Shall I go on? This list is endless.
There is always a reason for why we don’t get anywhere and it’s usually someone else’s fault. Guess what! Those aren’t reasons. They are excuses. So, if your job isn’t fulfilling or your staff isn’t cooperating, there are three things you can do.
- Stay there and keep doing what you’ve always done. You are guaranteed to get what you always got.
- Quit! Go find another job or career.
Ouch. I said the “change” word! That should be a four-letter word! It’s bad. It’s scary. It never works. Guess what?
Ok – do what you want. If I’ve offended you then stop reading now. If you are interested in perhaps the third choice, then read on.
By the way, those three options are not new. This knowledge is already out there for those that want it, and has been for a long time. The challenge is to make it fresh again. There seems to be an inherent resistance or form of mental inertia that people have to stubbornly adhere to ingrained thought patterns and habits. That’s not new either.
Is it the notion that certain forms of progress are bad? Or just difficult and sometimes uncomfortable? We all love progress. Don’t we? New tech gets gobbled up the minute it is released, new fashions, trendy food, all new and fresh. Shiny. Love it!
We might be thoroughly modern mankind but that old reptile brain and endocrine system still calls a lot of the shots until we allow our rationale brain to step in. Heaven forbid, we allow our “thinking brain” to call some shots!
Do you remember when you got on your first two-wheeler? Scary wasn’t it. You probably fell a few times, skinned your knees, cried a bit. Then what happened. You got up, got back on and practised. I little every day until one day –YES. You got it! And now it’s second-nature. You probably didn’t enroll in a two-hour course in a classroom to learn how to ride a bike.
Think about that. How do we try to learn now? As adults, we go to seminars, workshops, meetings and then go back to our desks and promptly forget most of what we learned. If we apply one thing, we’re lucky. It’s got to go deeper than that. In “Biology of Belief”, Neuro-scientist Bruce Lipman states: “When it comes to sheer neurological processing abilities, the subconscious mind is millions of times more powerful that the conscious mind. If the desires of the conscious mind conflict with the programs in the subconscious mind, which ‘mind’ do think will win out?” Right, our subconscious mind; the mind where our belief system is stored. Neuro-scientists also state that 90% of who we are and how we think automatically was formed before the age of 10. That’s brilliant! Let’s make our life decisions based on our mind as an 8 year old.
Brendan Burchard, founder of High Performance Academy and best-selling author of “The Charge” and “Motivation Manifesto” says “Only two things change your life: either something new comes into your life, or something new comes out of you.”
Start with 5 minutes a day. Take a thought that comes to mind, something or someone that makes you feel uncomfortable and take a look at from some other angles. Here’s an example…..
I was facilitating a workshop one afternoon and I remember one individual who sat at the back of the room, had a miserable look on her face and whenever the opportunity arose, she made it a point to make negative comments about the material. She really didn’t want to be there but her boss said she had to go. This particular seminar involved really being honest about our feelings as it related to our reactions to some challenging customers. As we got deeper into the session, she withdrew. At the right opportunity, I asked her if she would like to share. Many of her peers had already opened up. Guess what! She shared! And she had a very valid reason for her attitude. She was in an abusive relationship and didn’t know how to get out. She was taking it out on the rest of the world. What happened next was powerful. Her peers rallied around to support her. She got outside help, got out of the relationship. Today she is thrilled with life, has moved forward in her career and is an inspiration to others.
Bottom line – It’s not what happens to you. It’s how you perceive what happens to you.
Challenge your perception, challenge your belief. That’s your first step. Are you ready to take it? Are you ready to put in the effort to change some of those basic belief systems you adopted before you were ten? Before you were even old enough to make decisions on your own?
I know you can do it; if you choose to.
Hey – I’m no spring chicken and if I can do it, anyone can.